When I see more and more women in power, I can only applaud it! I like to see more women in high position and have been reading Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg eagerly.
I must say that I am surprised to see that Chinese women can be very strong. When I see women here in Shenzhen and how they treat their boyfriend/husband, I am surprised to see how much power they yield over them. Men are usually seen carrying everything, even their spouse’s purse. This goes too far for me, as I still want to see a man as masculine and a man carrying a female purse looks strange.
The first and still only time that I went to Sichuan, my husband’s hometown, I was surprised at how strong the women are there. I couldn’t bear it as they were loud and I got a headache from just being around them.
But, now I know more about my husband’s character. I already saw his mother is very loud and rules in the household and his father is very quiet and never speaks up. I heard this is typical for Sichuan households, so my husband is also quiet and does a lot for me. Whenever I want something, he almost drops everything and helps me out.
We must find a balance where men and women are equal and I try to obtain that in my relationship. I want equal rights for both genders, as I know that there are still a lot of women in China that don’t have any rights yet. But, we also need to make sure that we don’t become too strong and make men too docile.
Anyway, I love the tendency where women have more leadership roles in business and government. Men and women have different thoughts and combined we can make businesses and countries more successful. It is never good to say that one is better than the other. We need both for balancing things. To follow the ancient Chinese philosophy of Yin Yang: one cannot be without the other. And both have something of the other in them. We are not totally female or male. Every woman has some degree of masculinity as every man has some degree of femininity in them.
I am really looking forward to the future and see how the world emerges with this balance of the sexes. I can only think that it will be a better world where women are respected and listened to and where men can also speak up and are not afraid to talk about their feelings.